Here are Relaxing Records, we want to help you to deal with stress and anxiety and watch it have a positive impact on your life and productivity.
Here we have some top tips to help you deal with stressful situations, enabling you to calm down and destress.
Meditation eases anxiety and focuses the mind. It is an approach to training the ind, as exercise is to training the body. We believe it to be just as, if not more important.
Meditation can be hard to master as a beginner, but the benefits are more than worth the effort. Once you can train your mind to become empty, you can take yourself away from stressful situations and give yourself time to breathe and destress.
There are two main types of meditation – concentration and mindfulness. Keep your eyes peeled on a blog discussing both styles next week.
- Slow Down
This may seem like an obvious statement, but the amount of us that don’t give ourselves a chance to take a step back and breathe throughout the day is staggering.
Sometimes it is more productive to focus on one thing rather than many – and you will actually get things done a lot quicker if you stop multi tasking and learn the art of focusing.
Every time you start feeling bogged down, take five minutes out of your schedule and focus on the things happening around you. Feel the air on your face, use your senses to smell, hear and touch one thing surrounding you. This will help you become present in the moment and focus on the prioritising the most important of things.
Check out our vlog on The Pomodoro Technique, a time management ideal which encourages small breaks throughout the day which increase productivity:
- Talk to Someone
More often than not, the important people in our lives – the social circle we surround ourselves with – are the only form of destress we need.
Don’t take them for granted – reach out and talk to them. Share your stresses, feelings and worries with them and gain an outsiders perspective on what it is that is bothering you. The process of saying it out loud will feel like it is getting it off your chest, and you may find you get some really great advice!
- Breathe Deeply
Breathing is one of the best relaxation techniques. Focusing on your breathing takes your mind of any stresses or worries you may have, and filling your body with more oxygen will reduce levels of stress by slowing your heart rate and blood pressure.
Slowly inhale through your nose, and exhale through your mouth. While you do this, focus your mind on your breath rising up through your body.
Check out our blog on breathing techniques for some more information: http://www.relaxingrecords.com/2015/11/20/relaxation-breathing-techniques/
Any kind of exercise, whether walking around the block or running a marathon – releases endorphins (feel good chemicals) to help you destress.
Exercise will also help you to focus on something other than any problems you may be facing in your life.
- Listen to our Music!
Of course, we will always recommend our own music – but research has shown that listening to relaxing/soothing music can lower your blood pressure, heart rate and anxiety. So what are you waiting for?!
The Pomodoro Technique
Here at the Relaxing Records office, we constantly have our music playing and feel the ultimate in relaxation – even when we’re in work! But we’re the lucky ones. With one in five people now reporting work related stress and anxiety, and over 11 million working days lost in the UK due to stress – we thought we would try and do our bit to help.
We are creating blogs and vlogs to give you some time management and relaxation techniques, which will hopefully make you feel more in control of your work life, ad of course your personal life too.
Today I’ll explain the Pomodoro Technique, a time management system which was developed in the 1980s with the idea that frequent breaks can improve productivity. Yep – that’s right! The more breaks – the more work you get done.
The Pomodoro Technique helps you to get work done in quick intervals, by dividing tasks up with frequent breaks to allow you to come up for air and get refocused. The technique not only helps you on a day to day basis, but in the long run it will improve your attention span and concentration.
There are five basic steps to implementing this technique, and it can be used for any task that you need to use your brain for.
Within these five stages, you have planning, tracking, recording, processing and visualising the task – which is incredibly helpful for self observation and improvement. You will also notice that by committing to these stages you will have a real sense of achievement.
The whole aim of the Pomodoro Technique is to provide you with maximum focus and creative freshness, allowing you to complete any task faster with less mental fatigue. At the Relaxing Records office, we have Albert – our office dog. He’s a great excuse to put this technique into practice – and taking him out regularly for a small walk allows us to get that all important fresh air, and a distraction from the to-do list for five minutes!
So there you have it, The Pomodoro Technique. A life hack that stops you procrastinating by giving you MORE breaks – genius!
Let us know if this time management technique works for you 🙂
Top Ten Yoga Positions for Beginners
Whether you’re a beginner or an expert, RelaxingRecords has got a meditation playlist for you. But if you are a beginner, you may want to read on for our top ten simple yet effective yoga poses. Use this hour long Zen meditation video to help you with your poses.
- Stretches the inner thighs, groins and knees
- Improves circulation
- Stimulates abdominal organs, ovaries, prostate gland and bladder
- Improves digestive circulation.
- Helps reduces menstrual discomfort
- Soothes sciatica pain
- Stimulates in your abdominal organs, bladder, kidneys and ovaries.
For the Cobbler’s pose (also known as the Bound Angle Pose or it’s Sanskrit ‘Baddha Konasana’), you will need to begin in the sitting position with your legs outstretched to the front. Bring in your heels closer to the pelvis by bending knees sideways. The soles of your feet should be pressing against each other, and your heels pressing into the rear pelvis.
Your pelvis should be parallel to the floor, and shoulder blades in a straight line with your back. Remain in this position for 1-5 minutes, and bring your legs gently back to the original position while inhaling.
2.Downward Facing Dog
- Relieves stress and mild depression
- Energizes the body
- Stretches the shoulders, hamstrings, calves, arches, and hands
- Strengthens the arms and legs
- Helps prevent osteoporosis
- Improves digestion
- Relieves headache, insomnia, back pain, and fatigue
- Therapeutic for high blood pressure, asthma, flat feet, sciatica, sinusitis
For the Downward Dog pose (Sanskrit name ‘Adho Mukha Svanasana’) you will need to begin on your hands and knees, with your wrists directly under your shoulders and knees directly under your hips. Exhale as you tuck your toes and lift your knees off the floor, pushing your pelvis gently towards the ceiling. Begin to straighten your legs slowly, making sure you don;t lock your knees, bringing your body into the shape of an A.
Press the floor away from you, making sure you don’t move your feet any closer to your hands – keeping the extension of your whole body. To release – exhale as you gently bend your knees and go back onto your hands and knees.
- Strengthens the legs and ankles
- Stretches the groins, chest and lungs, shoulders, legs and ankles
- Stimulates abdominal organs
- Increases stamina
- Relieves backaches, especially through second trimester of pregnancy
- Therapeutic for carpal tunnel syndrome, flat feet, infertility, osteoporosis, and sciatica
There are three variations of the Warrior pose (Sanskrit name ‘Virabhadra’), but we will just focus on the first version. For this pose, you will need to start standing. Step your left foot towards the back of the mat, pushing the heel to the floor and turning your toes out slightly. Begin to bend the right knee over your ankle to a lunge pose – you may need to widen your stance for stability. Ensure your hips are pointing forward.
Bring your arms up over your head whilst inhaling, and touch your palms over your head. Hold this position, then exhale as you release your arms, and bring your legs together to an upright position.
4. Tree Pose
- Improves balance and stability in the legs
- Focuses the mind
- Strengthens the ligaments and tendon of the feet
- Strengthens and tones the entire standing leg
- Improves pelvic stability
- Strengthen the bones of the hips and legs
- Builds self-confidence and esteem
For the Tree pose (Sanskrit name ‘Vrikshasana’) you will need to start in the upright position. Bend the right knee shifting all the weight into the left leg, and turn the right knee to the right wall resting the heel against the left leg. Your shoulders should be down and your back and chest pressing forward.
Look down at the floor, focusing your mind on one particular area. Slowly slide your right foot up your left leg, as high as you can whilst maintaining your balance. Once you are balanced, bring your palms together holding the prayer position in front of your chest. Stay focused on the point on the floor to keep your balance. Once you are ready to release, exhale whilst bringing your arms down and releasing your legs to the floor.
5. Upward Facing Dog
- Improves posture
- Strengthens the spine, arms, wrists
- Stretches chest and lungs, shoulders, and abdomen
- Firms the buttocks
- Stimulates abdominal organs
- Helps relieve mild depression, fatigue, and sciatica
- Therapeutic for asthma
For the Upward Facing Dog (Sanskrit name Urdhva Mukha Svanasana) you will need to be laying on the floor initially. Spread fingers on both hands and press palms on the floor, directly under your shoulders. Push shoulder up, with hips dropped to the floor. Push shoulders back and press your chest forwards, reaching the crown of your head up to the ceiling.
Inhale and lift your thighs and legs off the floor by pressing the tops of your feet down. To release, bend the knees and lift your hips slowly.
6. Triangle Pose
- Strengthens the legs, knees, ankles, arms, and chest
- Stretches and opens the hips, groins, hamstrings, and calves; shoulders, chest, and spine
- Increases mental and physical equilibrium
- Helps improve digestion
- Reduces anxiety, stress, back pain and sciatica.
For the Triangle pose (Sanskrit name Trikonasana) you will need to begin in an upright position, with your feet separates comfortably wide apart. Turn your right foot outwards by 90 degrees, and your left foot in by about 15 degrees. The centre of your right heel should be aligned with the arch of your left foot. Your feet need to be pressing the ground, and your weight distributed evenly on both feet.
Bend your body to the right while exhaling, downward from the hips and keeping your waist straight. Put your left hand up into the air, while your right one reaches down to the floor, keeping both in a straight line. Rest your right hand on your shin or on the floor next to your right foot. Stretch your left arm toward the ceiling, and keep your head in an neutral position or turn slightly to the left. To release, bring your body up as you inhale, and bring your arms down to your sides and straighten your feet.
7. Seated Twist
- Relief in menstrual discomfort in women
- Help in calming the brain and de-stressing
- Stretching of spine and shoulders
- Improvement in digestion
- Strengthening of the groin and muscles of the legs
- Relief from sciatica, lower back pain and neck pain
- Improvement in the health of pregnant women
- Improvement of the overall posture
- Massage of the internal organs
For the Seated Twist (Sanskrit name ‘Ardha Matsyendrasana’) you will need to be sitting cross legged, stretching the spine and dropping the shoulders slightly. Inhale and bring your arms up above your head, and whilst exhaling twist your body to the right, slowly lowering your arms. Your right hand on the ground beside you, and left hand resting on the outside of your right knee. Rotate your head so you are looking over your right shoulder.
Stay in this position for 10 slow breaths, visualising yourself becoming taller as you inhale, and as you exhale twisting deeper into the pose. Your lower sine should be drawn inwards towards your stomach, making you sit tall in the pose. Repeat this for the left side, to ensure a balanced work out.
- Stretches the chest, neck, and spine
- Calms the brain and helps alleviate stress and mild depression
- Stimulates abdominal organs, lungs, and thyroid
- Rejuvenates tired legs
- Improves digestion
- Helps relieve the symptoms of menopause
- Reduces anxiety, fatigue, backache, headache, and insomnia
- Therapeutic for asthma, high blood pressure, osteoporosis, and sinusitis
To enter the Bridge Pose (Sanskrit name ‘Setu Bandhasana’) you will need to be lying on your back with both knees bent, and your feet flat on the floor hip width apart. Slide your arms alongside your body with your palms facing down, and your fingertips touching your heels.
Press your feet to the floor, and lift your hips up whilst inhaling, rolling your spine up off the floor. Lightly squeeze your knees together to ensure they say hip width apart. Push down your arms and shoulders to lift your chest upwards, and lift your hips higher with it. To release from the pose, exhale and slowly roll the spine back down to the floor.
9. Child’s Pose
- Gently stretches the hips, thighs, and ankles
- Calms the brain and helps relieve stress and fatigue
- Relieves back and neck pain when done with head and torso supported
Child’s Pose (Sanskrit name ‘Balasana’), is a resting pose that you can use between more difficult yoga positions. To begin Child’s Pose, you will need to be kneeling on the floor, touching your big toes together and sitting on your heels. Separate you knees about as wide as your hips. As tyou exhale, lay your torso down between your thighs, lengthening your tailbone away from the back of your pelvis. Lift the base of your head away from the back of your neck.
Lay your hands on the floor alongside you, palms up, and lightly push the fronts of your shoulders towards the floor, puling your shoulder blades wide across your back. To release from the pose, inhale as you lift from the tailbone as it presses down and into the pelvis.
10. Mountain Pose
- Improves posture
- Strengthens thighs, knees, and ankles
- Firms abdomen and buttocks
- Relieves sciatica
- Reduces flat feet
The Mountain Pose (Sanskrit name ‘Tadasana’) is the foundation for all of the standing poses, so you will need to begin stood up. Bring the feet together or hip width apart. Spread your toes wide and push them into the floor, make sure your weight feels evenly balanced through the bottom of each foot. Pull up your knee caps, squeeze your thighs and feel your hips aligned directly over the ankles. Your legs should be straight.
As you inhale lift out your waist, pressing the crown of your head up towards the ceiling. Make sure your spine feels long and straight. As you exhale, drop your shoulders down and back as you reach your fingertips down to the floor, gently pressing your chest towards the front of the room. Then inhale and push your arms up, turning your palms and bring the arms into a H position.
As you exhale again, relax the shoulders down from the ears while still reaching the crown and fingers up. To release from the pose, exhale as you bring your arms down to your sides.
Unhelpful Thinking Habits
All of us get stressed, and usually at these times our own minds are our worst enemies. We all have a habit of being negative about ourselves, putting ourselves down and being generally hard on ourselves more than on the people that surround us.
This is what we call unhelpful thinking processes, and once we can recognise these as unhelpful we can start countering them with more helpful ways of thinking.
Only noticing the negatives, letting the filter get rid of any positives.
Sometimes our minds have a habit of noticing only the negatives, and act like a filter – bypassing the positives that are going on around us. As humans, negatives are always going to be more clear to see than positives.
However, we can counter this. A useful way of doing so is to have a definitive list in our heads of the positive things we have done, or positive attributes of ourselves. Whenever you have a negative thought about yourself or a situation, clear it from your mind and go back to that list – focus on the positives.
Assuming we already know what other people are thinking.
Especially during stressful situations, our minds tend to wander and guess what other people are thinking about you or the situation. The reality is – none of us are mind readers.
All of us seem to care a lot about how other people are perceiving us, but no one knows us like we know ourselves. Whenever you think like this you must remember that everyone is feeling the same in situations, and they may be guessing what you are thinking too – and the likelihood is they and you are wrong!
Believing we know what will happen in the future.
Our minds tend to focus on the negatives, as we know from our mental filter process. Therefore, we will always assume that once something negative has happened once – it will happen again.
But this is something that none of us know for sure – we can’t know for a fact that this will happen again. A lot of people will avoid situations that may result in a negative outcome, and end up missing out on things that could have a positive impact in our lives. Next time your mind thinks it knows what will happen in the future, try and make yourself prove it wrong. Go and put yourself in the situation that your mind is trying to avoid – and once nothing negative happens you will have factual evidence for next time that negatives are not definite.
Compare and Despair
Seeing only good aspects of others and comparing ourselves negatively against them.
This thought process is a very common one for most people, and can be detrimental to our self belief and confidence.
However – the fact that the majority of people are guilty of this thought process makes it one of the easiest to overcome. Whenever you compare yourself to someone else, be it a friend, family member or complete stranger – just remember they are probably doing the same about you. Focus on your positives, and these are probably the things they are comparing themselves against as you think about it.
Blaming ourselves for events or situations that are not totally our responsibility.
We’re all guilty of it – thinking everything is our fault, blaming ourselves for every negative that has happened around us.
“What did I do wrong?”
“Could I have stopped it?”
The answers – Nothing, and no. 9/10 times you couldn’t have changed what has happened, and it wasn’t your fault in the first place. This is extremely common in times of tragedy – bereavement causes us to blame ourselves for situations that are entirely out of our control.
However it is common in day to day life too – especially in people with high levels of anxiety. Working environments are a common place for this type of thought, when something small goes wrong which may have nothing to do with you – but we still blame ourselves.
The simplicity of this thought process is that it probably isn;t your fault – and even if it is – just move on. Nothing is personal and not everything can be your fault. Think of something that you have done well recently – and replace the blaming thought with this. Remembering the positives is key here.
Shoulds and Musts
Thinking we ‘should’ and ‘must’ do things.
This is a classic case of putting too much pressure on ourselves and setting unrealistic expectations.
The key to overcoming this unhelpful thinking process is to write a to-do list every day, and learn to prioritise. What is most important. Do you HAVE to do that? Can you delegate tasks to someone else if you don’t have enough time? Remember – the more things you put on your own shoulders – the less likely you are to get those tasks right. Not everything is your responsibility – so search for the most important things and do those to the best of your ability.
Imagining and believing the worst possible thing will happen.
Most common in people with anxiety, this thought process can be extremely stressful, especially in anxiety producing situations.
The reality is – the worst thing that could happen is highly doubtful. In our minds we tend to forget to focus on the facts, and we focus on the fiction that our head is telling us. Remember to stop and think when you are catastrophising – how likely is it? What is more likely?
Feeling anxious, so believing you are in danger.
Emotional reasoning occurs when we pay too much attention to our thoughts and fears.
“I feel bad so it must be bad.”
Going back to the Fortune Teller process – our mind does not know what will happen in the future. Therefore we cannot determine what will happen in the future based on our own emotions. So next time you feel scared, so presume something scary will happen – think back to the last time you felt scared/stressed/angry/sad. Did any of those feelings turn into a real situation? The answer is most likely no – so remember this and move forwards.
Mountains and Molehills
Exaggerating the risk of negatives and forgetting the positives.
As you can see – there is a common theme in these thought processes. Our minds have a habit of taking over with negative thoughts, and forgetting any positives.
“You’re making a mountain out of a molehill.”
We’ve all heard it at some point in our lives – and the saying is a sensible one. Most of the things that we exaggerate are small, and other people may not even notice them. However our minds magnify them. Next time you have a negative thought, or something negative happens, try to pick it apart. What impact will it have on your future? Will you be thinking about that mistake tomorrow? Probably not.
Current situations conjuring distressing memories.
This happens to the majority of people that have experienced negative times in their lives. As we have said before, our minds focus on the negatives and forget the positives – meaning that certain places, scents, people or sounds can rustle up memories that will make us sad or scared, leading us to believe that the danger is here and now rather than in the past.
This is probably the hardest unhelpful thought process to conquer, as memories are not something that subside. However, the best advice we can give you is to face these places, face your fears. Once you go to that situation again and realise that the danger is no longer present – next time the memory rears it’s head you can focus on the time that nothing bad happened there. Depending on the situation this can take time, and may cause initial distress. But remember – the memory is in the past now, and it’s up to you to prove to yourself that it’s there.
We hope these thought process make it a little easier to understand what is going on inside your mind – and make you realise that you are not alone! The majority of people will think this way at some point in their lives, and there are ways to move forward and challenge your thoughts.